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Right, I'm gonna be a bit bold and start a Gaymers post/thread. Not sure if there's already one here for us or not, but I'm new to forums and in need of some like minded guys to play with online. Feel free to add me - Tommic85. I'm an all rounder with games - shooters, fighters, RPGs, platform, action/adventure, arty (journey is just incredible). So hit me up, leave ya IDs here and maybe we can all get to know each other. No homophobes please :) And if ur just curious or get on with gay guys, feel free to add me as well...most of my mates are straight guys
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This thread is fine in "general" because it's a topic that doesn't fit elsewhere.  "General" is the default for topics which don't quite fit elsewhere.  A thread being in general however, doesn't mean it's OK to go wildly off-topic by discussing things which are generally unrelated" to the OP.

This thread isn't about whether being gay is right or wrong. It's about gay gamers wishing to meet like minded people. If you want to discuss gay rights issues and how much various stereotypes bother you, then start a new thread instead of derailing this one.

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Yes I've held her hand in public But I have never danced in the street wearing practically nothing sticking my tongue down her throat and blowing kisses at everyone passing , it's called having respect for yourself and others around you. What's the next thread any Whyte gamers here like to join a group ? Other colours welcome as long as you don't mind playing with Whyte people ?This is a gaming forum not a chat room it's for discussing gaming content making friends and there is no reason to start groups of gay , Whyte , black etc we are gamers here and don't give a dam if your a goat as long as you enjoy gaming and having gay groups Whyte groups black groups etc is a very stupid and dangerous slide to be on.

 

This is just about the most offensive post I've read on this forum and I seriously hope a moderator comes down on you like a ton of bricks for it.  You've certainly reinforced the stereotype we have across the rest of the UK that Northern Ireland is a particularly homophobic and racist place to live.

 

For the record, the overwhelming majority of gay people don't "dance in the street wearing practically nothing sticking [their] tongues down each others throats", but if I was looking to witness such behaviour, I only need walk into any city centre at night and observe the dozens of heterosexual couples doing so in the vicinity of pubs and nightclubs.

 

And of course WHITE (note the correct spelling) gamers don't need to try and meet each other on the basis of their colour because white people are in the majority.  White is the default.  Minorities don't have this luxury, so it's hardly like some reverse apartheid is taking place.  People want to meet like-minded people with a similar identity and interests.  Get over it.

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Yes I've held her hand in public But I have never danced in the street wearing practically nothing sticking my tongue down her throat and blowing kisses at everyone passing , it's called having respect for yourself and others around you. What's the next thread any Whyte gamers here like to join a group ? Other colours welcome as long as you don't mind playing with Whyte people ?This is a gaming forum not a chat room it's for discussing gaming content making friends and there is no reason to start groups of gay , Whyte , black etc we are gamers here and don't give a dam if your a goat as long as you enjoy gaming and having gay groups Whyte groups black groups etc is a very stupid and dangerous slide to be on.

 

This is just about the most offensive post I've read on this forum and I seriously hope a moderator comes down on you like a ton of bricks for it.  You've certainly reinforced the stereotype we have across the rest of the UK that Northern Ireland is a particularly homophobic and racist place to live.

 

For the record, the overwhelming majority of gay people don't "dance in the street wearing practically nothing sticking [their] tongues down each others throats", but if I was looking to witness such behaviour, I only need walk into any city centre at night and observe the dozens of heterosexual couples doing so in the vicinity of pubs and nightclubs.

 

And of course WHITE (note the correct spelling) gamers don't need to try and meet each other on the basis of their colour because white people are in the majority.  White ishe default.  Minorities don't have this luxury, so it's hardly like some reverse apartheid is taking place.  People want to meet like-minded people with a similar identity and interests.  Get over it.


If you read the thread you would see that gay pride was mentioned on a few occasions this was clearly what I was referring to,and No this is not the section of the forum for this thread .This part of the forum is for PS3 not for anything else and indeed general or even clans would be where it should be.Go make a Gay Clan and the problem is solved that way you can play with similar minded people as was stated,frankly the majority here dont care who we play with , as for my spelling well done Sherlock I also am unable to lay eggs.
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Lets get this thread back on track eh!



 

1 - Saw this thread long ago and approved of it whole heartedly.



 

2 - What on Earth is wrong with any minority wanting to meet like minded people? As has already been pointed out if you're white and straight you pretty much don't have any worries, you won't get shouted at in the street and your every whim, need and want is catered for... now considering what any person of any colour can go through ( hell at times) or of any sexuality (also hell at times) is it any wonder they might seek like minded folks like themselves out?

 

I could go on and on but I am tired and others have made the point much better than I have!



 

3 - Whats next, a thread about how black history month is wrong? Or perhaps how the para-olympics just doesn't sit right with yourselves(s)?

 

 

4 - Sometimes I do wonder how we can show a white privileged person what its like but somehow I doubt you'd fancy going back a in time a few years and becoming a white farmer in Zimbabwe... pretty sure you'd want to meet like minded people then, or perhaps form an action or support group... but aren't those 'wrong?'

 

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5 - I don't think anyone intended offence on purpose, there is just a distinct lack of education or basic ignorance.

 

 

So....

 

No more comments from this point on of the type over the last couple of pages.

 

Users of these forums do not decide who or what is acceptable! I do. And in this thread  & on these forums and no matter what your colour, creed or sexuality you are accepted and most welcome here.

 

You can take that as an official Sony stance - I don't even need to go check this one with those upstairs.

 

Thanks all.

 

 

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Lets get this thread back on track eh!



 

1 - Saw this thread long ago and approved of it whole heartedly.



 

2 - What on Earth is wrong with any minority wanting to meet like minded people? As has already been pointed out if you're white and straight you pretty much don't have any worries, you won't get shouted at in the street and your every whim, need and want is catered for... now considering what any person of any colour can go through ( hell at times) or of any sexuality (also hell at times) is it any wonder they might seek like minded folks like themselves out?

 

I could go on and on but I am tired and others have made the point much better than I have!



 

3 - Whats next, a thread about how black history month is wrong? Or perhaps how the para-olympics just doesn't sit right with yourselves(s)?

 

 

4 - Sometimes I do wonder how we can show a white privileged person what its like but somehow I doubt you'd fancy going back a in time a few years and becoming a white farmer in Zimbabwe... pretty sure you'd want to meet like minded people then, or perhaps form an action or support group... but aren't those 'wrong?'

 

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5 - I don't think anyone intended offence on purpose, there is just a distinct lack of education or basic ignorance.

 

 

So....

 

No more comments from this point on of the type over the last couple of pages.

 

Users of these forums do not decide who or what is acceptable! I do. And in this thread  & on these forums and no matter what your colour, creed or sexuality you are accepted and most welcome here.

 

You can take that as an official Sony stance - I don't even need to go check this one with those upstairs.

 

Thanks all.

 

 


 

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Hiya Wretched and nice to see an 'official Sony stance'.

 

I am curious though, if I was to start a thread on the General Discussion section looking exclusively for heterosexuals to game with, will this also be as 'whole heartily' supported?  

 

Thanks :)

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Holy poop balls has this thread taken a major swerve.

 

Banter = gone.

 

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Hiya Wretched and nice to see an 'official Sony stance'.

 

I am curious though, if I was to start a thread on the General Discussion section looking exclusively for heterosexuals to game with, will this also be as 'whole heartily' supported?  

 

Thanks :)


 

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You probably could create a thread seeking Heterosexual's for gaming if you wanted, Cos everyone here has a preference that he or she might prefer over someone elses; it's not wrong to prefer certain groups, but with the modern times we live in, it seems no one has the right to make a choice anymore cos, they're all dictated for us. 

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You get threads for girls wanting other girls to game with and these usually end up with some people being idiots as well :(

I don't see what's wrong with seeking like minded people to play with, if you are co-oping for example you might just be generally chatting rather only talking about the game.

I don't play online much really and will shoot anyone in the face regardless of who they are :D but I might feel different if I played mp or co-op a lot.
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I don't see what's wrong with seeking like minded people to play with, if you are co-oping for example you might just be generally chatting rather only talking about the game.


 

I've seen that argument a few times in this thread now but again I don't see how it's valid.  Surely, homosexuals have (or at least can have) the same interests as straight people - football, tv shows, books etc so can't people of different sexual orientation have a 'general chat'?

 

I've played co-op quite a bit but have never once felt the need to have a sexually lead conversation with the people I'm playing with.  So again, I reiterated the point - why the need to actively seek out players with the same sexual preference?  Do you think that just because they are gay they haven't the potential to be just as small minded and bigoted as the rest of us are seeming being branded?

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You don't have to go around shouting that you're straight, because that's what people assume

 

I have to keep yelling to people that I'm black because they assume I'm white. Has nearly gotten me stabbed a few times, though. Guess people haven't quite gotten to racial equality yet.

 


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how much easier would it be if people stopped saying that and just asked 'are you with someone?' and gave no concern over the sex or sexuality.


It would be a lot easier but many blokes are preprogrammed by their mates and society to ask "have you got a girlfriend" so they don't sound like they are gay and interested in you. I use the terms "with someone" "partner" a lot even though I'm not gay and it has led many to believe I am simply for asking in that manner rather than genderizing the questions.

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I am actually really grateful and pleased that a moderator (Wretched_Hawk) came in and expressed a bit of an official view from these forums and Sony over this thread and their stance on the subject. It would have been a real shame if what started out as an innocent request to game with people of relaxed attitude got locked because of one or two people's inability to empathise. I would also like to apologise for my part in derailing the OP.

 

If you've never been part of a minority, it is understandably hard to get why sometimes people from such groups may request to meet other people from said group. It's difficult to explain if you've never been made aware of how different you are from the main group, but sometimes it's just nice to not feel like you're a minority, but in light of Wretched_Hawk post, this is not the forum for this discussion. Just believe that gay men wanting to meet other gay men (or as the OP said, relaxed straight men) does not neccessarily stem from sexual motivations, nor bigotry towards straight men. I still like to go to gay clubs, not to pick up (I've been in a monogamous relationship for more than 10 years), not to avoid straight men (my brother is straight and we get along great, plus several of my best male friends are straight and they frequently come to these clubs), I like them because in them I have no fear that someone might take offense if they found out I am gay. When I'm doing things for fun, I really want to avoid having conforntation as much as possible, I don't want to be made to feel awkward about being gay.

 

Anyone reading this (gay or straight) feel free to add me, I don't online game a great deal, bit of MK9, SF4, AC, Burnout and soon to start on ME3, but I'm happy to join if it's something decent.

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I am actually really grateful and pleased that a moderator (Wretched_Hawk) came in and expressed a bit of an official view from these forums and Sony over this thread and their stance on the subject. It would have been a real shame if what started out as an innocent request to game with people of relaxed attitude got locked because of one or two people's inability to empathise. I would also like to apologise for my part in derailing the OP.

 

If you've never been part of a minority, it is understandably hard to get why sometimes people from such groups may request to meet other people from said group. It's difficult to explain if you've never been made aware of how different you are from the main group, but sometimes it's just nice to not feel like you're a minority, but in light of Wretched_Hawk post, this is not the forum for this discussion. Just believe that gay men wanting to meet other gay men (or as the OP said, relaxed straight men) does not neccessarily stem from sexual motivations, nor bigotry towards straight men. I still like to go to gay clubs, not to pick up (I've been in a monogamous relationship for more than 10 years), not to avoid straight men (my brother is straight and we get along great, plus several of my best male friends are straight and they frequently come to these clubs), I like them because in them I have no fear that someone might take offense if they found out I am gay. When I'm doing things for fun, I really want to avoid having conforntation as much as possible, I don't want to be made to feel awkward about being gay.

 

Anyone reading this (gay or straight) feel free to add me, I don't online game a great deal, bit of MK9, SF4, AC, Burnout and soon to start on ME3, but I'm happy to join if it's something decent.


No one has asked for this thread to be closed , what has been asked is that the rules of the forum are upheld , This is Not the correct section of the forum for this thread or indeed threads like girl gamers seeking other girl gamers , the same would be asked if this thread had been posted in the Vita section or tec help or the MW3 section ,this section is to discuss PS3 related issues nothing else,General is where General discussions take place hence why the forum has different categories .
Why people seem to need to segregate the community because of sexual orientation has never happened before and should not be allowed to continue , no one here cares about peoples sexual preferences and weather you straight or gay has nothing whatsoever to do with this section of the forum never has.

 

As I suggested before a sub category on the forum perhaps under the Banner of Meet New friends would be an ideal solution , But threads which have nothing whatsoever to do with the category their posted in should be moved like they always have been and favouring certain threads over others and ignoring the rules is wrong,one rule for some and different rules for others.

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This thread is perfectly suitable for this section of the forums as it is also to do with gaming/PS3. if you don't like this thread or approve of it then I have a simple solution... get out of it.

 

Thank you.

 



 

 

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Kogia_breviceps wrote:

I am actually really grateful and pleased that a moderator (Wretched_Hawk) came in and expressed a bit of an official view from these forums and Sony over this thread and their stance on the subject. It would have been a real shame if what started out as an innocent request to game with people of relaxed attitude got locked because of one or two people's inability to empathise. I would also like to apologise for my part in derailing the OP.

 

If you've never been part of a minority, it is understandably hard to get why sometimes people from such groups may request to meet other people from said group. It's difficult to explain if you've never been made aware of how different you are from the main group, but sometimes it's just nice to not feel like you're a minority, but in light of Wretched_Hawk post, this is not the forum for this discussion. Just believe that gay men wanting to meet other gay men (or as the OP said, relaxed straight men) does not neccessarily stem from sexual motivations, nor bigotry towards straight men. I still like to go to gay clubs, not to pick up (I've been in a monogamous relationship for more than 10 years), not to avoid straight men (my brother is straight and we get along great, plus several of my best male friends are straight and they frequently come to these clubs), I like them because in them I have no fear that someone might take offense if they found out I am gay. When I'm doing things for fun, I really want to avoid having conforntation as much as possible, I don't want to be made to feel awkward about being gay.

 

Anyone reading this (gay or straight) feel free to add me, I don't online game a great deal, bit of MK9, SF4, AC, Burnout and soon to start on ME3, but I'm happy to join if it's something decent.


No one has asked for this thread to be closed , what has been asked is that the rules of the forum are upheld , This is Not the correct section of the forum for this thread or indeed threads like girl gamers seeking other girl gamers , the same would be asked if this thread had been posted in the Vita section or tec help or the MW3 section ,this section is to discuss PS3 related issues nothing else,General is where General discussions take place hence why the forum has different categories .
Why people seem to need to segregate the community because of sexual orientation has never happened before and should not be allowed to continue , no one here cares about peoples sexual preferences and weather you straight or gay has nothing whatsoever to do with this section of the forum never has.

 

As I suggested before a sub category on the forum perhaps under the Banner of Meet New friends would be an ideal solution , But threads which have nothing whatsoever to do with the category their posted in should be moved like they always have been and favouring certain threads over others and ignoring the rules is wrong,one rule for some and different rules for others.



Seems to me that its not where this thread is located that bothers you at all. Live and let live man. Its one thread among thousands in the GD section so whats the problem. There a plenty of other threads in here that dont belong too, but it only seems to be this one you have taken issue with. 

 

Besides which a mod has already said this is the right place for this thread so who are you to say different?

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Any lesbians add me I like to share my gamer tag is ManchesterMale.
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Dude you're getting a little creepy to be honest. Looking for girls in manchester area and now looking for lesbians. The name of the game is being subtle, not obvious and vulgar.

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Dude you're getting a little creepy to be honest. Looking for girls in manchester area and now looking for lesbians. The name of the game is being subtle, not obvious and vulgar.


Are not lesbians girls also ? Or have I missed something ?
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Dude you're getting a little creepy to be honest. Looking for girls in manchester area and now looking for lesbians. The name of the game is being subtle, not obvious and vulgar.


Are not lesbians girls also ? Or have I missed something ?

 

1. lesbians wont be interested in you anyway and 2. your one creepy guy and i would be surprised if any girls would want to add you

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